So I got a lot of feedback on a post about relationships for twentysomethings and wanted to follow-up with some of it.
Anyone who is a recent college graduate (either class of 2008 with me, 09, and some from 07) are in the exact same spot as me. Whereas most from the class of 07 and older are more career-minded, but admit to having these thoughts.
I think it's because young girls are focused so much on school, but maybe not so much careers. You see, we're taught to be good students and follow the rules, but boys are more encouraged on being ruthless when it comes to making a living. You can argue with me all you want on this but I'm not talking about YOUR specific family. I'm talking about the general population and how boys and girls are raised differently.
I say this because many of my friends who are finally done with school suddenly have lost all of their courage when it comes to the real world. Sure, they carry on just fine and make careers for themselves but they seem to have way more stage fright along the way than men. Why is this? Are men groomed more to be big, bad businessmen? Are women taught to follow the rules more, which we then find out doesn't work in the real world?
So give me your thoughts on this one, because I'm starting to agree that while women are taught they can have as many careers as Barbie, the whole thought of being ruthless in these careers is seriously lacking. (Yes, I know the Barbie comment is a whole other blog post for another day).
Thus, could this scare us enough to make us want to rush into marriage and settling down? Maybe our lack of courage and inability to be ruthless in our careers makes us yearn for a second half that could bring our bite back. Or, are we attracted to what we've seen our mothers do and thus what is more natural to us? (Note* My mother has always had a career and my father does most of the "home" duties, but I still associate the reverse).